Here is a clear statement about the dangers of judging others from the Booklet “Lessons to Live By Volume 1” by Art Braidic. In this Laodicean, landscape many in the church think they have need of nothing, One of the things that help us support that viewpoint is by judging others and comparing ourselves to others. Christ himself is Knocking on the door to our minds to wake us up. He is the one we should be comparing ourselves to. We should be judging ourselves not our neighbors or our brethren.
1 Corinthians 4:3
But with me it is a very small thing that I should be judged of you, or of man’s judgment: yea, I judge not mine own self. For I know nothing by myself; yet am I not hereby justified: but he that judgeth me is the Lord.
Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of God. And these things, brethren, I have in a figure transferred to myself and to Apollos for your sakes; that ye might learn in us not to think of men above that which is written, that no one of you be puffed up for one against another.
In the book, Unfinished Business, David Simmons, a former quarterback for the Dallas Cowboys, explained that in his childhood home, his father was a military man and extremely demanding. He rarely said a kind word, but rather used harsh criticism to push his son to do better.
David’s father constantly reminded him that there were always new goals ahead and refused to allow David any satisfaction from his accomplishments.
Once, as a boy, David’s dad gave him an unassembled bicycle. He commanded his son to put it together himself. After David struggled to the point of tears, with the many parts and difficult instructions, his father said to him, “I knew you couldn’t do it” and then assembled it for him. Later, when Dave played football in high school, his father was unrelenting in his criticisms. After each game, he would go over every play and point out Dave’s errors.
In retrospect, Dave said, “Most boys got butterflies in their stomach before the game; I got them afterward. Facing my father was more stressful than any opposing team.”
When it was time to go to college, Dave chose The University of Georgia. It was the farthest campus from the home where he had come to hate his father’s constant disapproval.
After college, he became the second round draft pick of the St. Louis Cardinals after Joe Namath who was first. Excited, he telephoned his father to tell him the good news. His dad responded by saying, “How does it feel to be second?”
If you have ever felt rejected, welcome to the club. We have all felt it at some time. Our emotions constantly confront us with a need for acceptance from a very early age. However, whether from a girlfriend, boyfriend, family member or neighbor; virtually everyone has suffered some form of rejection.
The lessons of rejection come to us from various places — family, friends, the media and peer pressure.
As we move on to college, or in the workforce, the opportunities for acceptance or rejection continue. Other’s response to how we dress, the car we drive, what our position in the company is, how much money we make, where we live, the kind of home we live in, and the people we associate with.
In the Church, acceptance may depend on who we attend with, how big our church is, how many programs it has, or our level of leadership.
Even within the congregation of faith, rejection can be based upon how we look, dress, and what personal views we have.
In this day and age, where everyone seems to be judging what is right and wrong for themselves, we need to remember that we do not have the ability to measure ourselves — or each other.
The apostle Paul would not even judge himself. He knew mankind does not naturally make good judgments. Humanly, our values are flawed and seldom in sync with the standards of Almighty God. Thus, Christ was also rejected by men, even forsaken by His own disciples as they fled in fear. He felt rejection but was comforted by the fact that the Father was with Him. God the Father’s love and acceptance are what really mattered to Him and it is what should matter the most to us.
We should remember that what others think of us is not of much importance.
Even what we think of ourselves does not count for much. It is what God thinks that is important, and He loves us, and will never reject us — if we do not reject Him.